The most important part of our lives is bringing up our children. They are the future citizens of our country and of the world. They will create history. Our children are the future fathers and mother who will, in their turn, rear children. They must grow up to be good citizens and good fathers and mothers. If so, do you want to bring up good citizens - energetic, honest, learned human beings? Or do you want your children to be narrow-minded, greedy, and cowardly.
Setting an example for children is the most profound way parents influence their children. Parents play an important role in development and lay the groundwork for the children’s perceptions, personality, moral make-up, and feelings of worth and value. Making good safe decisions can enhance children’s feelings of self-worth and help safeguard them from the influences of peer pressure, alcohol, or other drugs. Children of all ages are more likely to talk to parents who are willing and available to listen. Parents who are willing and available to listen. Parents should constantly tell children they love them and remind them how important they are to them and how important they are to the general overall functioning of the family. Parents should praise their children and encourage them in their efforts and talents. It is a good thing to have high, but reasonable standard are expectations for children. Also by spending quality time with our children, we build an atmosphere of family unity . Quality time in areas hat the entire family enjoys promotes self-esteem and builds a trust and respect for each member of the family.
Discipline is important to our children. Many times children express a desire to see If they are loved. Children understand that parents who discipline really love them and they want rules and guidelines. Discipline is not necessarily punishment, but the promotion of each child to exercise and build on their self-worth. Punishment is actually the result of children not discipline themselves. If parents will put themselves in the position of the children, we many times can see how hurtful and criticizing our behaviours can be. We punish with action, not degrading and humiliating attitudes. “I love you, but I do not love your behaviour” are ways to teach discipline and avoid destroying the child.
If something does not seem right, follow the initial feelings and teach children to do the same. This will help them build trust in themselves. By standing on what just seems right, promotes positive decision making and making right choices in their lives. Also, recognizing our own weaknesses and telling them about them, and apologizing when we are wrong, gives children the ability of recognize right from wrong to become productive citizens with strong family values.
Above all, your own conduct is decisive. Your manner of dress, how you treat your friends or enemies, even what you laugh at, read in paper ; all this has great meaning for the child. You may not even be aware that your thoughts are affecting him in unseen ways. The essence of children rearing does not consist in your conversations with the child, in direct effect on him, but rather in the organization of the family, of your own life and the life of the child.
